Category: nature

Can You Remember What it is To Be Normal?

by wildflower518, posted in nature, Normalcy, positive thoughts, True Happiness

What is “normal”?

Have you ever read the actual definition of normal? It’s quite astounding if you ask me.

The definition of normal is

conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/normal

Conforming is essentially being obedient.

What if I said there is no normal? That normal is based off of current societal standards and acceptable behavior to our peers.

It sounds so constricting right? But yet that is what is expected of us by our peers. To be their idea of “normal”….

And if you don’t conform to their idea and definition of normalcy where does that leave you?

Up a creek without a paddle

This leaves you isolated and branded. Every single being on this planet has their own opinion of what normalcy is. As unique as all of our personalities are, is how unique our idea of normal is.

So why force others to conform to essentially change their personalities to match ours? That wipes out who we are as individuals and we lose our self identity.

Can you remember who you were before the world told you who you should be?

Charles Bukowski

Really can you remember? I couldn’t, then I found myself seeking nature and the sanctity of it. The more I found myself in the woods, the more of myself I found out there.

By feeding my soul, I found my own idea of normalcy and chose more and more to be accepting of others’ personalities. Even when we have different values and opinions, it’s still so important to me to accept them as they are.

But I also found the strength to be MY normal despite it going against everyone else’s false sense of normalcy.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m still a law-abiding citizen. I’m still focused on my mental health as well as being kind to others. But I am truly finding myself and who I am without others, as well as society telling me who I’m supposed to be.

If we had all conformed to society’s definition of normalcy from the beginning we wouldn’t have some of the strongest movements in the world today.

From the #metoo movement, to the LGBTQ community’s strides that they have made, to the Civil War. We will always have the chances and the need to grow and adapt as a society. But one thing that all of these monumental movements have in common is that these were people who refused to let society and their peers define who they were.

The chose to break free from the normalcy despite the costs.

I challenge you to find a quality about yourself (let’s face it we all have at least one) that doesn’t conform to your society’s normalcy and choose today to be YOU. Set your own standards of who you want to be. It’s always scary to dig deep within yourself and put yourself out there. But you will NEVER be disappointed in yourself for being your very own, unique self.

As always my friends. Continue standing strong through the storms like the wildflower you are.

Britt

Starve the ego, feed the soul

by wildflower518, posted in nature, parenting, positive thoughts, yoga

Feeding your soul to me is what what it means to feel complete bliss. 

I feel complete bliss when I’m truly taking in my surroundings. It could be anything from hearing my children laugh, to being out in the wild, to baking in the kitchen, or listening to music.

I found that when you are disconnected from superficial things, such as social media, trying to maintain soul-sucking relationships… That is when you are able to truly feed your soul. What matters the most is who you are surrounded by everyday. 

I have learned that living life as stress free as I can also helps with positive lifestyles. By doing the things that feed my soul, I feel re-centered and ready to take on life’s challenges even harder and rejuvenated than before. 

What works for me is yoga, meditation, and being outdoors as much as possible. Being a mom and wife you can easily lose who you are. Don’t misunderstand the fact that I love my family unconditionally. However, by taking the steps each day to take even 15 minutes for myself has done so much for my mental health. We as individuals deserve that much in a world that never sops.

My kids and husband have noticed it as well. They want to be around me more. They want to show me more affection. And honestly, they want to get involved in the things that I am doing as well. It was such an eye opener for me to realize how mundane their lives were for them because all I had ever done was live for them.  It has grown our family bond in ways that I cannot even begin to describe.

So today I challenge you all to take 15 minutes out of your day to do whatever feeds your souls. I promise you won’t regret it. 

Much love. Until next time my friends! Stay strong like the wildflowers you are in this stormy weather.

Britt